There are always a lot of posts about how to treat introverts and how to tell if something is bothering them. But guys, extroverts can be just as sad and have just as many issues. So here it is, an introverts guide to dealing with extroverts.
fair warning this post is just gonna be me responding with my experiences. I think it’s great if people can learn from this but
This is a great addition to my original post.
#6 in the original post hits very close to home for me.
As anexceptionallystrong introvert, I Do. Not. Make. Plans. I don’t invite people places, I don’t make plans to hang out, I don’t make the first step. I always, alwaysalwaysfeel like I’m intruding on their lives. I have outright told friends that if they want to see me, they will need to call me because I am not any good at calling them.
I also spent several years with a (now former) best friend being mad at me for doing just that, even after she acknowledged that she’d be the one to call.
Now yes, it’s difficult. I don’t want to be around people all the time. Sometimes I do. If I spend a lot of time around you, I will go through a period when I do not want to be anywhere near you. I do not know how long these periods will last. I understand that this is difficult for people to understand, and I don’t blame them for being bothered by it. What I am bothered by is when people tell me that they understand and that they will take it as it comes…and then don’t do that.
I’m trying to be better about it. Trying to make plans with people. Trying to put myself out there. But it makes me incredibly uncomfortable and then my anxiety acts up and I want to hide in my room for forever. And that’s not good for anyone.
I do really think that this is a place that extroverts and introverts need to be REALLY REALLY GOOD at communicating with each other, and NOT GETTING MAD. This is, I know, easier said than done. The extrovert needs to talk with the introvert, and say what’s happening and how it makes them feel - and then allow the introvert time to do the same - AND THEY BOTH NEED TO TAKE IT TO HEART. That part is very important. Find a way to work around it, or to allow room to grow, or perhaps find a way to part ways - at least for the time being. Or, accept that it is going to work that way and simply move past it.
So these posts are important for introverts AND extroverts to read. Communication is so, so, so important, and so many people don’t do that. We’re losing each other, and it’s hurting everyone. :( Talk to each other, people. Love one another. Acceptance and understanding and patience and all that jazz.
I’m gonna go hide out in my room. XD